The art of Chinese etiquette and dating Asian women

If you want to make a good impression on Asian women you can’t just rely on your native good manners.  The rules of polite behavior in Chinese society can be very different.  What’s more, if you date Asian women with a view to marriage, you will also need to impress their parents, so understanding etiquette is doubly important.

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Getting to know people

One of the reasons that, for Asian women, online dating holds so much appeal, is that it is generally considered impolite to introduce yourself to somebody directly.  In person, a mutual acquaintance will usually do this for you.  Online, if you take an interest in one of the beautiful women on our site, you can send a message through us so that, effectively, we can make the introduction.  If you travel to China to meet a woman you have fallen for, one of our staff members will accompany you to introduce you in person.

There is a formal, traditional order for group introductions that takes account of social status, seniority and gender.  This means introductions can sometimes take a while.  It’s important to be patient during this process and wait for your turn.

Managing emotions

There is a stereotype in the West that paints Chinese people as distant and mysterious.  This stems largely from a social code that says it’s polite to avoid displaying emotion in public.  Most importantly, if you want to be respected, you must never lose your temper.  If you find yourself disagreeing with someone, ask that person to help you understand.  Never directly accuse someone of making a mistake or being wrong.

If you find yourself in a difficult situation, smiling can almost always get you out of it.  If you date with Asian women online you may find that sometimes they start arguments to see how far they can push you.  This is generally intended as playful behavior and it’s often accompanied by smiley face icons or smiling photographs that should make it clear what’s really going on.  Flattering a woman at this time can really make her like you.

Giving gifts

The concept of reciprocity is really important in Chinese etiquette.  Although it doesn’t apply when you are courting – you should flatter Asian women by paying for everything when you go out together and sending gifts and flowers when apart.  If you meet your Chinese sweetheart’s parents you will be expected to buy them gifts.  French red wine is particularly popular with men, while women love handcrafted items like scarves or jewelry.  You can also expect to receive gifts from them, and it’s important to respond graciously as if these have precisely equal value to you, no matter what they are.

Polite behavior for couples

No matter how emotional you may feel when you meet with Asian women you have been dating online for the first time, it’s important to show polite restraint.  Chinese couples do not kiss in public.  If things go well, she may be willing to hold your hand.  If she kisses you discreetly after your first date, you will know that things are going very well indeed.

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