When dating Asian women comes to mind, most people typically do not think about shaking hands. However, hand shaking is a sort of “silent language” that can speak very loudly in many Asian cultures, especially in China.
Shaking hands is a very popular way of greeting people all over the world, but it is more of an art form in China. In China, Asian women and men use the handshake to say hello and goodbye, express congratulations and encouragement, and as a way to say “thanks”.
When it comes to shaking hands in China, here are some simple rules you should follow:
- The elder or senior person, teacher, female, married, or superior individual should offer his or her hand initially.
- When shaking hands with more than one person, do your best to shake hands in order of importance, but start with those closest to you. For example, shake hands from senior to junior or nearest to farthest.
- When a host is greeting a guest, he or she should offer the handshake first as a show of welcome, but guests should shake hands first when leaving.
- If a hand is offered, regardless of status, it is courteous to shake hands unreservedly.
With all these rules, you might be wondering if there is also a proper way to shake hands. The answer is yes! Here are some tips:
- Don’t shake hands too quickly or for too long; three to five seconds is best.
- Hand shaking should be simple and light, so don’t overexert.
- Pay attention when you shake hands.
- Don’t use your left hand to shake hands.
- Take off sunglasses, gloves, and hats before shaking hands.
- Don’t have your other hand in your pocket when shaking hands.
- Unless you are disabled, do not shake hands while sitting down.
- Don’t refuse to shake hands!