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About Marcus Crellin

Marcus is the founder of China Love Date

Finding single Asian women is difficult for China’s “surplus men”

According to experts, there will be about 24 million more men than women in China in the next few years, which means that the majority of Asian women are already taken.  What does this mean for these “surplus men”?

China 'suplus men'

Since so many Asian women are already romantically linked to other men, China’s male surplus are having a hard time finding partners.  In fact, there are so many available men to choose from that the ladies in China are starting to get quite picky.  Many women are starting to set their standards so high that most regular Chinese guys simply are not making the grade.  This is making it difficult for the locals.

Why has this surplus of men come about in the first place?  Lots of experts blame the country’s One Child Policy, which was introduced in 1979 by the leader at the time, Deng Xiaoping.

The policy was originally intended to slow down China’s population increase.  In the 1980s, couples started using ultrasounds to determine the gender of their unborn baby.  Many couples chose to terminate female pregnancies in favor of male offspring.  This practice lasted until 1994.

As a result of this trend, there are about 66 million fewer women in China than there should be.  So what’s a lonely guy to do?  Lots of Chinese guys are now turning to online dating to find love across the globe.  Many Asian women have made online dating profiles, and now men are starting to follow suit.

The Beijing Chrysanthemum Festival is perfect for Asian dating

If you plan to be in Beijing any time between September 26th and November 16th of this year, be sure to set some time aside to check out the Beijing Chrysanthemum Festival, which is an ideal event for Asian dating!

Orange chysanthemums

Every fall, this fascinating festival takes place, allowing visitors and locals to enjoy the fine autumn weather and view thousands of colorful flowers on exhibit.

The chrysanthemum is one of China’s four traditional flowers: there is a long history of chrysanthemums in China, but in the early 20th century, the flowers began to decline.  This festival was actually founded in an effort to revitalize an interest in the traditional culture of the flower.

Why is this festival so great for Asian dating?  First of all, what girl doesn’t love flowers?  Take her to a festival dedicated to flowers and it’s a done deal!  On top of that, you’ll enjoy the exhibit and will learn a lot about China’s flower culture.

If this is something that interests you, make plans now.  Although you can view and even purchase chrysanthemums in several parks throughout the city, your best bet is in Beihai Park, which is known for its serene and unparalleled staging for the festival.  You’ll also want to check out the display at the International Flower Port.

You won’t need to purchase tickets in advance, but it will be helpful to check the weather before you go because the festival is primarily outside.

A gentleman as defined by Asian women

Whether you want to believe it or not, Asian women who are interested in dating are actually looking for a gentleman who will treat them right.  Are you that guy?

Bowler hat and moustache

Even if you think of yourself a gentleman, some Asian women might not necessarily agree.  Sure, you might be polite and charming, but the definition of a “gentleman” can vary across cultures.  In fact, the ancient Chinese philosopher Confucius played an integral role in defining social order and cultural bases, including how gentlemen should behave.

Let’s take a look at the four traits of a gentleman in Chinese culture and see if you stand up to the test:

  • Filial piety.  Also known as “Hsiao” in Chinese, this trait is the importance of family connections.  Confucius based much of his philosophy on filial piety, which puts an emphasis on sons paying appropriate respect to their parents, thus maintaining social order.  A gentleman will not only recognize filial piety, but will also actively fulfill his duties.
  • Benevolence.  It is known as “Jen” in Chinese, and it is what Confucius said separated men from animals.  It is also what separates a gentleman from normal men.  If filial piety is considered the bedrock of being a gentleman, benevolence is the apex.  He must be driven by a love of humanity and should strive to reach Jen throughout his life.
  • Propriety.  Known as “Li” in Chinese, propriety is another virtue all gentlemen must have.  There are certain rules and etiquette of society that gentlemen must follow; they should know and respect the social order.  A gentleman should act in accordance with overall social rules, especially when dealing with individuals based on their social status.
  • Sincerity.  Sincerity, or “Yi,” goes beyond just being honest.  A true gentleman should be sincere in all of his actions as it forms the basis of moral values and good faith.  In China, a gentleman’s actions are dictated by his love of virtue and desire to be righteous within his society.

 

How do you add up? Would Confucius approve?

 

Asian dating literature discussion: I Am China

When you’re dating someone, especially long-distance Asian dating, you’re going to want to find out a lot about each other.  What are your common interests?  Do you enjoy the same movies?  What about books? Woman

Even if you haven’t read any of the same books, literature can be a fascinating topic when dating. If you’re Asian dating, you might want to read books about China or those written by Chinese authors.  This can help you develop a true and deeper appreciation for the culture.  That’s why we’re giving you a heads up on a new book…

In Xiaolu Guo’s latest novel, I Am China, the author asks some rather potent questions, such as how far an artist should go.  As you are probably aware, China’s political environment is a lot different than most countries in the West.  In an authoritarian state like China, is art always political?  Is it always propaganda?  Guo goes even further to ask what the responsibilities of the artist actually are and where one’s individuality exists.

At the heart of the novel is Kublai Jian, an underground punk rocker living in Beijing just after the events at Tiananmen Square.  He falls in love with a young poet, Deng Mu, and a story unfolds across continents, years, and belief structures.  The reader observes their story through letters and diary entries being sorted and translated by a publisher.

As the story unfolds, the reader is ultimately immersed into the dilemma that many Chinese artists face even to this day: should they take a stand or not?  Many individuals feel the pressure to preserve family, tradition, and culture while simultaneously desiring to express their individuality and creativity.  This book is sure to inspire a lot of interesting conversations.