Author Archives: Marcus Crellin

About Marcus Crellin

Marcus is the founder of China Love Date

Long-distance Chinese dating

Long-distance Chinese dating can seem like a scary idea for many people, especially if they are new to the online dating world.

Long Distance Relationship

The good news is that long-distance dating doesn’t have to fizzle out after the first few communications.  Here are some great tips for making a long-distance love affair last:

  • Stay connected.  One of the secrets to long-distance relationships is to increase the frequency of interacting with your partner.   This means more phone calls, more video chats, and more text messages.
  • Communicate honestly.  When you’re in a long-distance Chinese dating relationship, it might seem hard to communicate, but communication is key.  You have to put yourself out there and stay honest about how you feel.  Talk about everything, just as you would in person.
  • Build the relationship up.  If you live a great distance apart, you must take the time to nurture this relationship.  Get to know each other over time to forge a strong and powerful bond.
  • Get creative.  Keep the romance alive by being creative – surprise your faraway lover with a box of chocolates delivered to her job or send a special card.  You could even draw inspiration from the past and send a mixed tape or CD.
  • Battle the green-eyed monster.  Jealousy can rear its ugly green head when you’re in a long-distance relationship.  This often occurs simply because you’re not there.  Be open and talk about your concerns; you might find that they are completely unfounded.

No one ever said that a long-distance relationship was going to be easy, but it can be just as real, vital, and important as a local relationship.  Good luck!

Has Asian dating brought you to China? How to follow the laws

Are you doing a little Asian dating?  If so, your experiences may bring you to China at some point, which can be very exciting!  However, if you’re planning on traveling to China, it is important that you understand that the laws in China can be very different from those in the West.

Visiting China

So, when Asian dating brings Westerners over to China it is important to stay well-behaved – this means following the rules you do know and remaining respectful as well as using your common sense.  But, there are some things to keep in mind as well:

  • Register your place of residence immediately.  This can be a hassle, but it is essential.  You are required to register where you are staying within 24 hours.  When staying in a hotel, this is usually done for you, but if you are staying with friends or relatives, the onus is on you.
  • Always have your passport with you.  This may be hard to do, especially if you are doing something in which it could get lost or ruined, but it is essential.  Make a few photocopies of it and keep the real thing in the hotel safe.  You may or may not ever be asked to show your ID, but if you do, it is better to be safe than sorry!
  • Make sure your visa doesn’t expire.  There can be huge financial repercussions if your visa expires or you might be held indefinitely in a foreigner center, which is much like a jail.  If your visa is set to expire, renew it right away.  If it does expire, head to the nearest visa office and explain the situation as quickly as possible.
  • Be wary of outdated laws.  When laws become outdated they aren’t repealed like in the West – they stay on the books and are simply ignored.  However, this means they can be enforced anytime, so be careful.  One in particular: restricted hotels.  Sometimes, foreigners are not permitted to stay in some hotels, but usually larger establishments in city centers are properly permitted.

Just remember, stay on your best behavior and you’ll do just fine!

How to show Asian women you’re the real deal

How many times have you gone home from a date with Asian women unsure how it really went?  You had a great time, but did she really like you?  She smiled and laughed, but does this mean she’ll want to pursue this romance?

We are here to help you eliminate these first-date worries and relax a little.  Here are some great ways to show Asian women that you’re the real deal and worth getting to know a little better.

Love with cards

  • Talk about your interests.  If you’re meeting up after communicating online for a while, chances are you already have some common interests. Take the conversation to the next level by sharing your passions.  What are you into?  What is she interested in?  You might still learn something new about her.
  • Talk about your values.  You are going to need to share your family values eventually, so go ahead and get it out of the way.  It doesn’t have to be awkward; remember you’re both trying to learn about each other and see if this is going to go somewhere.  The key is to be honest.
  • Talk about your skills.  Don’t confuse this with bragging.  If your date expresses an interest in cooking and you have a particular skill, share it.  Share your passions, but also share what you can do well.  Believe it or not, it’s a great way to learn about each other.
  • Talk about your sense of humor.  You don’t have to make jokes, but it is perfectly fine to share your ability to laugh at yourself.  Keep the conversation lighthearted and feel free to share charming or funny anecdotes, especially ones in which you can show her that you have a good sense of humor and don’t take things too seriously!

Taking Chinese girls to the Moon Festival

So you’ve been dating a couple of Chinese girls online and would like to visit China and meet them in person.  When should you go?
Well, this really depends on your schedule and budget, but if you plan to be in China during the first week of September this year, you might consider going to the Mid-Autumn Festival, which is also commonly referred to as the Moon Festival.

moon

The festival takes place every year on the 15th day in the eighth month of the Chinese calendar, which is typically September or October on the Gregorian calendar.  This year, the festival happens to take place on September 6th, 7th, and 8th.  The fall weather makes this festival one of the most enjoyable events throughout the year, especially for those just visiting the country.

The Moon Festival is a lovely way to spend the day with Chinese girls you’ve been dating online.  People usually have the days of the festival off from work and are able to enjoy the celebrations, which historically observed the moon’s movement, the changing seasons, and agriculture.  The festival itself dates back to the Zhou Dynasty (1046-256 BC).

On a more romantic note, the festival also commemorates Chang E, who flew to the moon because she drank her husband’s elixir in order to protect it.  The festival is a lot of fun, with participants enjoying moon cakes, storytelling, and lantern games.