After you’ve taken the initiative to meet a woman through a Chinese dating service, you will want to make sure that you are behaving properly when it comes to the etiquette of dating. While you might feel you are well versed in dating in the Western world, it’s a bit different in China, and for women who come from the country.
Understand the Differences
One of the most important things to understand is that even though times are changing – albeit slowly – in Eastern dating culture, many beautiful Chinese women are still reliant upon the traditional ways that they’re familiar with in guiding their dating experience. These ladies may be starting to explore some level of freedom in their romantic lives, but a focus on marriage and stability is still at the forefront of Chinese family life.
Taking on the exciting, unfamiliar world of international dating may seem overwhelming – where do you start in figuring out how to go about wooing a Chinese beauty? Don’t fret too much – with a bit of research you can face meeting your match with confidence, secure in the knowledge that you’re approaching your date properly. Here are a few pointers that can help.
Setting the Date Up
First, when you are asking a woman out on an actual date, or when you are setting up an online date or call just to speak with one another, be mindful of her schedule. Always ask several days in advance of the actual date. This gives her time to arrange her schedule so she can spend some time with you.
In the meantime, don’t be surprised if she blows up your email or phone – even though Chinese dating is typically more conservative, it’s customary for there to be frequent communication between the two people. Westerners may be taken aback by this “stalking-like” behavior, but rest assured that it is normal.
Second, you should be the one to make the date and all of the arrangements. Sure, you can ask her what she wants to do, but many Chinese women expect you to make the date arrangements. Still, listen to her when she has input. During the date, make sure you have time to speak with her, so you can learn more about her and so she can learn more about you. A film might work for a first date, but you really don’t get to know much about one another. If you go to the movies, make sure that you have dinner before or after, so you have some time to talk with one another.
Another thing to keep in mind is that even though a bar is a common first date meeting place for Americans and other Westerners, the beautiful Chinese women you will encounter on a dating site are not likely to be drinkers. The culture is very different in terms of women and alcohol – they may have a glass of wine on occasion, but they aren’t likely to be comfortable in a bar atmosphere, particularly when just getting to know you.
Third, always make sure you are a gentleman. Just because you feel the date went well does not mean it is an invitation to groping her or expecting anything. Once you are through with the date and she is on her way, send her a text to make sure that they got home without any trouble. It shows that you care.
Once you’re armed with the basic etiquette of Chinese dating you can go into your exciting new romance with confidence.