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About Toni Cao

Toni is the co founder of China Love Date

Old romance and Chinese dating in Beijing

When you think of one of the most romantic cities in the world, Paris probably comes to mind, but for Chinese dating, Beijing is a good place for anyone who dares to seek a little romance.  Beijing might not be the obvious choice for a romantic setting, but it is a wonderful place for a romantic getaway for Chinese nationals and visitors alike.

Beijing

Don’t let the snarling traffic and gleaming skyscrapers put you off. This old city offers a new take on old romance, which can only take Chinese dating to the next exciting level.

The hotels

Beijing offers some really plush and luxurious hotels harkening back to China’s imperial greatness.  For example, Aman at Summer Palace was actually once the guesthouse of the empress during Emperor Qianlong’s reign. With its expansive grounds and lush gardens, you’ll never want to leave the premises, which also offers spacious spa rooms for couples pampering.  The city also features a number of ultra modern hotels, villas, and resorts.

The scenery

You can visit the Great Wall, but Beijing has so much more to offer, especially in the city center.  Take a stroll through Ritan or Beihai Park; the former features elegant scarlet temples while the latter is an imperial garden and home to the Confucius Temple.  Don’t miss Houhai at night, with its 1920s music and soft lanterns.  Urban and modern counterparts complement these beautiful yet historic places.

The food

Chinese culture is intimately entwined with its culinary delights, which means you can’t enjoy a romantic escape to Beijing without incorporating food into the mix.  Because Beijing is such a large and international city, you will be able to choose from a wide selection of fare, but keep it authentic.  Visit Le Quai, which offers Nouveau Chinese dishes, or one of the local Sichuan places and you won’t be disappointed.

Many Chinese girls like romantic movies

If you’re going to date Chinese girls, you might want to learn a thing or two about the most romantic Asian movies.  Most people think that every Asian movie is about Kung Fu or martial arts or that the majority of them are scary horror flicks.  The truth of the matter is that many of them are pretty romantic – perfect for a movie night with Chinese girls.

Heart shapes film reels

If you want to know what to put on your Netflix, read on…

  • Comrades, Almost a Love Story (Hong Kong, 1996) – Directed by Peter Chan Ho-sun, this film is based on the book of the same name and follows a pair of star-crossed lovers who tempt fate and take chances to see if their love will stand the test of time.
  • Farewell My Concubine (China, 1993) – Spanning a 50-year period, this film directed by Chen Kaige is filled with passion, intrigue, and heartache.  This sensual story about a Peking opera star tormented by a broken heart and unfulfilled desire is the only Chinese movie to ever win the Palme d’Or at the Cannes Film Festival.
  • The Love Eterne (Hong Kong, 1963) – This musical film directed by Li Han-hsiang draws plenty of inspiration from The Butterfly Lover and tells the tale of a girl dressed as a boy who is deeply in love with her best friend.  It’s a magically sweet movie.
  • Spring in a Small Town (China, 1948) – This movie, which was remade in 2002, is one of the most romantic Asian films out there.  Directed by Fei Mu and set in China as it recovers from war, the film follows a couple that struggles to stay together even after their initial passion has fizzled out.  The underlying themes are resilience and commitment.
  • You are the Apple of My Eye (Taiwan, 2011) – Although this movie might appeal more to teens, it is worth watching.  It’s the sweet story of the girl everyone wants but only one boy can make a move.  It reminds us of what love is really all about: surprise, excitement, and fun.

Chemistry on the first date with Asian singles

Are you dating Asian singles?  Going on a first date – and sometimes even a second date – can be a flurry of emotions complete with butterflies in the stomach.  How do you know if that feeling is good chemistry or just that spicy food you ate for dinner?

First date

Here are some telltale signs that the chemistry is good:

  • You’re a little nervous – but in a good way!  It’s good to be a little nervous thinking about the date.  A positive level of curiosity and excitement is a good sign, especially when you are going out with someone new.  This is especially true for those you’ve been corresponding with online and meeting for the very first time in person.
  • You soon relax.  You might be nervous for the first few minutes of the date, but you’ll soon relax and really enjoy yourself.  After the giggling, nervous smiles, and breaking the ice with small talk, you both will become more comfortable and truly enjoy each other’s company.
  • You’re still curious.  If there is a mutual attraction, you’ll both feel curious about the other.  Asking questions and uncovering things you have in common are all part of the fun.  The first date is all about exchanging information, so enjoy it.
  • There’s a kiss.  Although you might have heard that Asian singles don’t kiss on the first date, that isn’t always true.  If you get a kiss at the end of the night, you know you’re on the right track.  Just remember to take it slow and respect her culture and values.

Chinese dating and holding hands

Chinese dating can be fun and filled with lots of excitement, but as a Westerner interested in Chinese women, it is important to understand that there are lots of cultural and social differences when it comes to romance.

Consider what’s happening in a high school in the Henan Province, located in central China.  School officials at Yanshi High School have banned boys and girls from holding hands on campus in an effort to thwart romantic relationships.

Holding hands

Violating this rule could result in expulsion from school after the initial offense. First-time offenders receive a warning and are suspended from school for at least a week of self-reflection.  In fact, the rule goes beyond just holding hands; students are also prohibited from falling in love.

Although the school says it made these rules in order to create an environment conducive to serious study and good behavior, it is receiving its fair share of criticism.  Many people believe that the bans are against human nature. After all, how can you prohibit someone from falling in love?

Yanshi High School isn’t the only establishment to institute such rules.  For example, in Hangzhou of the Zhejiang Province, male and female students at Changhe High School are not permitted to be alone together and must always stay at least 20 inches apart.  Another school forbids female teachers from wearing strong perfumes or black stockings so as to not entice the male students.

Needless to say, the views of Chinese dating in China are a lot different than those in the West.