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About Toni Cao

Toni is the co founder of China Love Date

Is dating Chinese women different from dating American women?

There should be no doubt in your mind that if you want to date Chinese women, things might be a little different than if you were to date an American girl. After all, China is a nation with thousands of years of tradition, culture, and history.

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What is it like to date Chinese women? The basics are the same, of course, but there are quite a few things that are very different. Here’s an introduction to some of the differences.

  • When dating begins: Unlike many Western countries, dating in China doesn’t usually begin until after men and women have entered their college years. High school kids simply have too much work to do in preparation for university.
  • There’s a pragmatic approach to dating: In China, the overall view of dating is a pragmatic one. It isn’t always about finding your soulmate; it’s more about finding a person who fits in with your own ideals.
  • Mom and Dad are very involved: Although this is becoming less of an issue in modern times, the parents have traditionally played a large role in dating in China. Although their role might have lessened over the years, if Mom and Dad don’t approve, it might not bode very well for your relationship.
  • Premarital sex: In most cases, sex before marriage isn’t the norm, although attitudes toward sex are changing in more metropolitan areas.

Keep in mind that these are just generalizations. Not every Chinese woman fits into the same mold, just like you’ll find a variety of attitudes among American women. The important thing is to learn about and respect her beliefs and attitudes.

Meet Chinese women and discuss classic literature

If you have joined an online dating site to meet Chinese women, you are about to interact with some of the smartest, most interesting ladies in the world. Often, single Chinese ladies are placed into unfair stereotypes such as “China dolls” or “dragon ladies”, but many of these women are intellectual and love good conversation. Are you prepared?

classic literature

Having some knowledge of classic Chinese literature won’t help you meet Chinese women, but it might help you pique their interest, especially as a gentleman from the West. If you want a little background the subject, you should know that there are four works that are particularly important to classic Chinese literature.

These four books are known as the “Four Great Classical Novels”, and they have influenced countless legends, plays, films, and art throughout the centuries. If you want to have a little more insight on Chinese culture and civilization, it might be a good idea to read these stories as each one is either based on historical events or takes place during important Chinese dynasties. Here’s the list:

  • Romance of the Three Kingdoms was written by Luo Guanzhong in the 14th century and is set during the fall of the Han Dynasty, which led to the transition to the Three Kingdoms period. The sophisticated narratives are nuanced with loyalty, treachery, triumph, and defeat.
  • The Water Margin, which is sometimes referred to as Outlaws of the Marsh, is a 14th-century story written by Shi Nai’an about the exploits of virtuous fugitives living during the Song Dynasty. Exploring fate and moral values, the story is filled with timeless characterizations and multi-dimensional story telling.
  • Journey to the West was written in the 16th century by Wu Cheng’en and tells the story of a monk living during the Tang Dynasty who is charged with the task of retrieving Buddhist scriptures from India and returning them to China. Along the way, he meets a monkey king, a pig-man, a sand monster, and a dragon-horse.
  • Dream of the Red Chamber, also known as The Story of the Stone, was written in the mid-18th century by Cao Xueqin. The story is the epitome of Chinese realism and explores fate, romance, daily life, and the fortune of dynastic life in great detail.

Could Met Gala’s theme help you meet Chinese ladies?

If you were invited to this year’s Met Gala, you might have wondered if the theme could have helped you meet some available Chinese ladies. Chances are you probably weren’t invited to the fabulous annual event – and no, it wouldn’t have helped you in this respect.

Chinese Red knot buttons

Why are we talking about the Met Gala? This year’s theme, of course!

The Met Gala is an annual event that opens the spring fashion exhibit at the Metropolitan Museum of Art every May in New York City. It’s a lucrative fundraiser for the arts and a truly spectacular red carpet fashion event, with everything sanctioned by Vogue and masterminded by its editor-in-chief, Anna Wintour.

This year’s theme was the influence of Chinese art on Western fashion designers. Prior to the event, the high-risk China-themed red carpet had some fashion critics really worried. Would the theme be thwarted by cultural stereotypes, accidental racism, and misinterpretation? Would gala-goers be donning too much embroidered silk?

The attendees did not disappoint! Yellow, being a traditional Chinese imperial color, made several appearances, perhaps the most memorable being Rihanna’s fur-trimmed gown by Chinese couturier Guo Pei that has since been likened to the Yellow Brick Road, a pizza, and scrambled eggs. Kristen Wiig also wore yellow beautifully.

Sarah Jessica Parker also made the list (although one is sure if it is the best- or worst-dressed list) with her tasseled headdress designed by Philip Treacy. It looks surprisingly similar to the 2008 Beijing Olympics fuwa mascot’s flame-crowned head.

Anna Wintour wore a fabulous gown with impressive sleeves and red poppies all over it. Poppies are a symbol of China’s difficult times during the Opium Wars, and part of this year’s Met exhibit focuses on Yves Saint Laurent’s 1970s Opium fragrance.

Even though the Met Gala might not have helped you meet any single Chinese ladies, you would have likely gotten an eyeful of high fashion!

Romantic Asian dating in Hong Kong

When it comes to the most romantic cities in the world, Hong Kong might not immediately come to mind. You might be surprised to learn that despite its fast pace and bright lights, there are a number of romantic spots there that are simply perfect for romantic Asian dating.

Couple dating

Whether you are stopping in Hong Kong for a quick visit or heading there to meet the girl you met on an Asian dating site, keep these romantic ideas in mind:

  • Visit Victoria Peak. What is it about heights and romance? Cozy up to your honey on the Peak Tram as you take in impressive views of the Hong Kong skyline and Victoria Harbor. On a clear night, the views are simply stunning. Be sure to save time for a stroll along the many trails or make a nighttime dinner reservation overlooking the city.
  • Cruise Victoria Harbor. Victoria Harbor is impressive to see from above, but a romantic harbor cruise is also pretty special. Hong Kong’s skyline is even more magical as it reflects off the water while you float through the harbor on a traditional junk boat, ferry, or dinner cruise.
  • Shower her with flowers. There are many fresh flower markets in Mong Kok, so why not shower her with a bouquet of beautiful flowers? Every girl loves to receive flowers, even if she says otherwise. You don’t have to buy them all; walking through the shops and stalls is pleasant enough for an afternoon stroll.
  • Dine in a private kitchen. Dining in a private kitchen is all the culinary rage in Hong Kong right now, so why not try it out? This type of dining is especially romantic because it will just be the two of you or several small groups. Finding the best private kitchen will take some time and planning, but it is well worth it.

Who says Hong Kong can’t be romantic?