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Toni is the co founder of China Love Date

Learning how to flirt from a Chinese dating site?

Do you belong to a Chinese dating site? If so, you might be expecting the site to give you some pointers on how to flirt, but not all of them provide advice. In an effort to help you find romance, we’ve put together some tips and tricks that most Western guys could probably use.

Online relationship

Although most women want to find a secure love and happiness, flirting can be very different across cultures. This is particularly true when it comes to Western guys and Chinese girls:

  • That initial rejection of a date might not actually reflect her feelings about you. This can be a slippery slope, but it is very common for a Chinese girl to turn a guy down when he first asks her out. Many Chinese girls might seem shy, distant, and conservative at first, but this is just part of their culture. When you’re asking a girl out, just be honest and sincere. It goes a long way.
  • Don’t go for cheesy pick-up lines. Avoid playing the “Have we met before?” game. Those silly pick-up lines that may work in Western cultures aren’t so beneficial in China. They definitely won’t take you seriously if this is the approach you take.
  • Knowing when she really means “no”. If she comes up with an array of excuses why she can’t go out with you or why she won’t be able to see you again so soon, she’s probably trying to let you down easy. Don’t push it.

When you’re chatting via a Chinese dating site, you might not pick up all the nuances in Chinese flirting. It’s not always about what you say; it’s the meaning behind it that counts.

Asian dating? Read up on The Seventh Day

Whether you’re into Asian dating or just enjoy dating in general, you will need to come up with some interesting conversation topics. Depending on the type of girl you like, you might need to stimulate her intellect by discussing the latest books.

Young woman reading a book lying in a hammock

Well, we’ve got one for you: The Seventh Day by Yu Hua. You might remember Hua’s previous collection of short stories, Boy in the Twilight, about a dim-witted man who can barely remember his own name.

Hua’s latest work, The Seventh Day, offers a playful – sometimes dark and disturbing – look at modern China. The novel follows Yang Fei, a recently deceased 41-year-old man who has been instructed to attend his own funeral, which he ultimately skips.

Through the 213 pages, we see Fei meet other recently deceased individuals on his quest to find his father. Along his journey, we also get a glimpse of how his life was: incredible, sad, lonely, and so much more.

The book is a challenge for many readers because of its complex structure, but it also subtly touches on issues seen all to often in modern China: wanton greed in an increasingly consumerist society, social divides, and nepotism. However, it also shows China in all its glory: the kindness of its people, its beauty, and its culture.

If you’re an intellectual and into Asian dating, Hua’s latest book might be right up your alley. It will certainly make for some really interesting conversation!

Asian dating leads you to China? Know business hours

For many, Asian dating online inevitably leads to a trip to China to meet in person.  And for some, this journey may be one’s very first trip to China – a beautiful country with lots of history and culture, much of it very different from countries in the West.

New York Chinatown

But are business hours very different?  Travelers should know the basics, which we are happy to share with you!

  • The Chinese workweek is typically five days from Monday through Friday consisting of eight hours a day and no more than 44 hours per week.  Saturdays and Sundays are usually off.
  • Most businesses are open during the week from 8:00 AM to 6:00PM, with a lunch break usually from 12:00PM to 2:00PM.  These hours may vary slightly based on the business and location.  Government offices adhere to the same schedule, but are typically open from 9:00AM to 5:00PM during the week only.
  • Scenic sights, post offices, and banks are typically open from about 8:30AM to 6:00PM, but hours may vary.  Hospitals and other medical centers are also usually open 24-hours a day.  Hotels, supermarkets, department stores, restaurants, bars, and most shops are also open daily, including public holidays.
  • Coach stations, airports, and railway stations are open from the first outbound trip to the last, some of which are 24-hours a day.  However, some ticket counters inside may be closed during that period.

 

Of course, if you plan to visit China because of your successful Asian dating, you’ll also need to remember that the country has a number of public holidays.  It is during these holidays that the business hours mentioned above may be modified or places may be closed so always check before you travel!

Chinese dating helpline launched

At the end of December, a 24-hour Chinese dating help hotline was launched in China. The service, which is staffed by 300 psychology experts and volunteers, is intended to help young people who need some romantic advice.

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Will this love hotline actually help ensure that true love runs a little smoother in China? It is hoped that it will help young singles figure out what they want or need from a particular relationship or how to get into the dating game.

The Chinese dating helpline is a joint project by Shanghai East China Normal University, the Shanghai Women’s Federation, and the Shanghai Matchmaking Association. It will be free to use.

Studies and surveys conducted by the aforementioned organizations indicate that insecurity is one of the biggest barriers to love. The psychology experts manning the lines hope to tackle this issue.

Dating in China is a little bit different from dating in the West, which is something that many men learn quickly when they join Chinese dating sites and begin the process. This is also apparent to Westerners who are living in China. In fact, this hotline might actually even be helpful for non-Chinese individuals hoping to date in the country or have a relationship with someone from the culture.

However, you need to speak Chinese if you plan on calling in; the service is currently only available in Chinese.