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Dating Etiquette

Romantic Asian dating in Hong Kong

When it comes to the most romantic cities in the world, Hong Kong might not immediately come to mind. You might be surprised to learn that despite its fast pace and bright lights, there are a number of romantic spots there that are simply perfect for romantic Asian dating.

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Whether you are stopping in Hong Kong for a quick visit or heading there to meet the girl you met on an Asian dating site, keep these romantic ideas in mind:

  • Visit Victoria Peak. What is it about heights and romance? Cozy up to your honey on the Peak Tram as you take in impressive views of the Hong Kong skyline and Victoria Harbor. On a clear night, the views are simply stunning. Be sure to save time for a stroll along the many trails or make a nighttime dinner reservation overlooking the city.
  • Cruise Victoria Harbor. Victoria Harbor is impressive to see from above, but a romantic harbor cruise is also pretty special. Hong Kong’s skyline is even more magical as it reflects off the water while you float through the harbor on a traditional junk boat, ferry, or dinner cruise.
  • Shower her with flowers. There are many fresh flower markets in Mong Kok, so why not shower her with a bouquet of beautiful flowers? Every girl loves to receive flowers, even if she says otherwise. You don’t have to buy them all; walking through the shops and stalls is pleasant enough for an afternoon stroll.
  • Dine in a private kitchen. Dining in a private kitchen is all the culinary rage in Hong Kong right now, so why not try it out? This type of dining is especially romantic because it will just be the two of you or several small groups. Finding the best private kitchen will take some time and planning, but it is well worth it.

Who says Hong Kong can’t be romantic?

Asian dating on Halloween

This week, we’ll be celebrating Halloween in the United States, which is a time best known for trick-or-treating, costumes, and lots of parties.  If you are part of an Asian dating relationship, is there anything special you need to know?  Do they celebrate Halloween in China?

The Chinese don’t celebrate Halloween quite like Westerners do, but they do have a similar celebration called the Hungry Ghost Festival.

In order to better understand the differences, we should keep in mind that Halloween is based on “the day of the dead”.  This is a day on which ghosts can cross the boundary between the living and the dead.  The Chinese have a similar belief.

Halloween

On the days of the Ghost Month, which is usually in August, it is said that the ghosts are very active among the living, particularly on the night of the full moon.  On this night in particular, the living must take special precautions to honor the dead in order to avoid attacks or pranks from them.  There are a number of special ceremonies, performances, and offerings left for the ghosts to show that the living still honor them.  When the ghosts are pleased, they will help and protect the living.  When they are not happy, they can wreak havoc!

In the past, this festival was quite serious, but it has become more light-hearted in modern times.  However, Halloween celebrations in the West are much more easygoing and fun than those in the East, where there is still a sense of solemnity.

The Hungry Ghost Festival is an interesting experience, especially for foreigners who have never participated in this tradition.  If Asian dating brings you to China during these festivities, you might want to ask your date to accompany you.

Dating etiquette and sex: single Chinese women versus western men

When it comes to the way dating etiquette and sexual intercourse are viewed, there are many differences between single Chinese women and western men. There are so many western men who are interested in dating Chinese women, that it actually behooves us to understand and appreciate these differences.

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Thanks to such fundamental cultural differences, western men are often shocked by the way that Chinese girls view certain elements of the romantic relationship, especially when it comes to sex. In an effort to avoid embarrassing misunderstandings, it is a good idea for western men to learn as much as they can about romantic relationships in China before they begin dating a Chinese woman.

Love, sex and marriage

In China, dating is a serious business and casual sex is practically non-existent. In the West, this is not the case. Many Americans, for example, date several people simultaneously and have a much freer sense of sexual relationships. In recent years, pre-marital sex has become less of a taboo in China’s larger cities such as Shanghai and Beijing, but this new view has not become the norm in smaller villages where traditional views still reign. That being said, western men should not be surprised to meet a thirty-year-old virgin if she has never been married.

There is a paradox, however, when it comes to a Chinese woman’s virginity. It is not so unusual for a woman to engage in pre-marital sex – even on the second or third date – if she views her mate as a potential marriage partner. Pre-marital sex, in fact, is often viewed as a binding deal maker, meaning that if a woman has sex with a man whom she is only dating, his feelings are mutual when it comes to wanting marriage as the next step. It is important for western men to be open and honest in this situation.

Family involvement

Another surprising element of dating Chinese women is that it is often a family affair. In many cases, a woman’s parents will play matchmaker and set her up with a suitable young man. This, however, is not always the case. Sometimes, a woman will seek out her own potential partner. When this occurs, she probably will not discuss the men she is seeing with her mother, girlfriends, or anyone else for that matter. If a woman is serious about a man, however, she will discuss him with her mother.

So, if a Chinese girl asks you home to meet her family, she is quite serious about the relationship. In the West, this move is often the formal engagement announcement. In China, it is assumed.

A good rule of thumb is never to agree to meet her family if you are not also considering marriage.

Social consequences of dating western men

It should be known that when a Chinese woman has dated a foreign man, or even lived with him, her chances of future marriage to a Chinese man have been cut dramatically. Most traditional Chinese men will not even consider a woman who has had a foreign boyfriend, whether or not she remains a virgin. There is a strong bias against foreigners for many traditional Chinese people when it comes to romance and marriage.

Making the first date with Asian women easier

If you want some tips on making the first date with Asian women a little easier, you’re in luck!  Almost everyone feels a little nervous when going on a first date with any woman, so you’re not alone.

First date

We have put some great tips together to make your first date with Asian women go a little more smoothly, so relax and have fun!

  • Make plans.  If you are in the same area, touch base to find out what she might want to do.  This way, some of the guesswork is taken out of the equation.  If you are traveling to China to meet her, it is even more important to have some sort of plans laid out.
  • Stay simple.  Everyone loves a romantic first date, and some Chinese women love to get swept off their feet.  However, a complicated plan can be stressful, so keep it simple for the first time.  Plan something fun such as dinner, a movie, or a festival.
  • Don’t sweat it.  As hard as it is to remember, the first date really isn’t a big deal.  It is really just two people getting to know each other while doing something fun.  Keep this in mind and it will make it easier to get through the evening.
  • Just be yourself.  Although she’s already got an idea of who you are and what you like to do based on your profile and online conversations, she still doesn’t know you.  The key is to remember to be yourself and things will work out.
  • Focus on her.  On the date, don’t talk about yourself unless she asks.  It’s a good time to focus on her and concentrate on what she’s saying.  You’ll thank us later!

Good luck!