Tag Archives: China - Page 5

China

How are Chinese girls supposed to speak?

At first, many Western men might perceive Chinese girls to be rude, but their manner of speaking can actually be attributed to a difference in culture.

Chinese speech

Speaking volumes

In China, conversations out in public can seem quite loud and boisterous, especially to those who aren’t used to it. In many cases, it sounds like these people are arguing loudly.  However, when it comes down to gender roles, what is expected of Chinese girls and guys is very different. Chinese etiquette states that the ideal way for women to speak is to do so quietly with one’s head slightly bowed. Men who speak loudly are not considered to have bad manners.

Have you eaten?

There are also differences when it comes to greeting an individual. Inappropriate greetings are frowned upon. Between acquaintances and strangers as well as on formal occasions, the Mandarin greeting “Ni Hao,” which means, “You good?” is typical. In more familiar settings, a greeting that roughly translates to “Have you eaten?” is used. This is a great example of just how central food is to Chinese people.

Shaking hands

A traditional handshake involves interlocking fingers and waving the hands up and down a few times. This isn’t as widely used today as it once was, but it is still used in formal settings such as funerals and weddings. Modern Chinese people shake hands much like those in the West do.

Asian dating examined in “The Leftover Monologues”

Asian dating is very different from dating in the West. Part of this might be due to China’s One Child Policy, which was implemented in the late 1970s and has put the ratio of women to men in the country severely off kilter.

Chinese culture

Many Chinese people might consider themselves as modern in terms of today’s social views; however, when it comes to dating, parental pressure can still outweigh true love in many cases. Asian dating is often intended for families to move up the social ladder or to maintain a certain status. Some dating choices are also fueled by the fear of becoming a “leftover woman.”

In China, women who haven’t married by the age of 27 are considered “leftover.”  These are typically women who have gone to college and chosen a career rather than family life. Many of these ladies turn to online dating and men from the West because of this stigma. Now, these concerns are being laid out on the stage.

“The Leftover Monologues” is a play that was inspired by the wildly popular Broadway show, “The Vagina Monologues.”  However, this Middle Kingdom version focuses on Chinese and foreign women – and some men – and their stories of romance, love, dating, and the crippling fear of being leftover.

American journalist Roseann Lake is the brain behind “The Leftover Monologues.”  She has just finished writing a book about love in China, which drew her attention to the phenomenon of leftover women and just how different Asian dating is from American dating.

The play opened in Beijing over the summer and ran for a couple of weeks. If it opens professionally in the coming years and you are interested in Chinese culture, you might want to check it out to gain some insight into the Chinese dating scene.

Finding single Asian women is difficult for China’s “surplus men”

According to experts, there will be about 24 million more men than women in China in the next few years, which means that the majority of Asian women are already taken.  What does this mean for these “surplus men”?

China 'suplus men'

Since so many Asian women are already romantically linked to other men, China’s male surplus are having a hard time finding partners.  In fact, there are so many available men to choose from that the ladies in China are starting to get quite picky.  Many women are starting to set their standards so high that most regular Chinese guys simply are not making the grade.  This is making it difficult for the locals.

Why has this surplus of men come about in the first place?  Lots of experts blame the country’s One Child Policy, which was introduced in 1979 by the leader at the time, Deng Xiaoping.

The policy was originally intended to slow down China’s population increase.  In the 1980s, couples started using ultrasounds to determine the gender of their unborn baby.  Many couples chose to terminate female pregnancies in favor of male offspring.  This practice lasted until 1994.

As a result of this trend, there are about 66 million fewer women in China than there should be.  So what’s a lonely guy to do?  Lots of Chinese guys are now turning to online dating to find love across the globe.  Many Asian women have made online dating profiles, and now men are starting to follow suit.

Old romance and Chinese dating in Beijing

When you think of one of the most romantic cities in the world, Paris probably comes to mind, but for Chinese dating, Beijing is a good place for anyone who dares to seek a little romance.  Beijing might not be the obvious choice for a romantic setting, but it is a wonderful place for a romantic getaway for Chinese nationals and visitors alike.

Beijing

Don’t let the snarling traffic and gleaming skyscrapers put you off. This old city offers a new take on old romance, which can only take Chinese dating to the next exciting level.

The hotels

Beijing offers some really plush and luxurious hotels harkening back to China’s imperial greatness.  For example, Aman at Summer Palace was actually once the guesthouse of the empress during Emperor Qianlong’s reign. With its expansive grounds and lush gardens, you’ll never want to leave the premises, which also offers spacious spa rooms for couples pampering.  The city also features a number of ultra modern hotels, villas, and resorts.

The scenery

You can visit the Great Wall, but Beijing has so much more to offer, especially in the city center.  Take a stroll through Ritan or Beihai Park; the former features elegant scarlet temples while the latter is an imperial garden and home to the Confucius Temple.  Don’t miss Houhai at night, with its 1920s music and soft lanterns.  Urban and modern counterparts complement these beautiful yet historic places.

The food

Chinese culture is intimately entwined with its culinary delights, which means you can’t enjoy a romantic escape to Beijing without incorporating food into the mix.  Because Beijing is such a large and international city, you will be able to choose from a wide selection of fare, but keep it authentic.  Visit Le Quai, which offers Nouveau Chinese dishes, or one of the local Sichuan places and you won’t be disappointed.