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Chinese culture

Asian women, colors, and clothes

When you’re dating Asian women, it is always a good idea to learn as much about their culture as possible.  This appreciation of their heritage can go a long way, especially if you are of Western descent.  A big part of Chinese culture in particular is in color and clothing.

Colour palette

Red, black, and white are the three central colors within the country’s culture, and each color bears a particular significance.

Red, the color of blood, is the symbol of wealth, happiness, fame, and good luck.  Black, often associated with feces, symbolizes dirt, evil, sin, disaster, sadness, and suffering.  It is the color of bad luck and should not be worn to special festivals or celebrations.  As the intermediate between red and black, white – also the color of mother’s milk – is the symbol for purity, honesty, life, and moderation.  However, it is also used frequently in funerals because it is thought to harmonize all of the elements.

When it comes to clothing, Asian women and men also observe certain practices, although there are no specific rules.

Traditionally, black has been avoided, although modern Chinese people have begun to incorporate more black into their wardrobes.  Generally, bright colors are the norm, except when it comes to dressing for one’s profession.  For example, those doing manual labor might get dirty more frequently, so they often stick to darker clothing.

The next time you think about color and clothing and you’re in China, consider how these elements integrate into Chinese culture.

Chinese girls and dating agents

We’re proud to be among the top Asian dating websites in China, but sometimes people ask us why sites like ours exist at all.  Why don’t Chinese girls who are interested in Western men choose to meet them more directly?  The reasons are manifold and are rooted in Chinese tradition.

Paper hearts

The historical role of the matchmaker

Centuries before there were Asian dating sites online, weddings in China used to be arranged through matchmakers.  At the time of the Zhou dynasty there was an official state matchmaker responsible for overseeing marriages throughout the empire.  Later, the role became a respected profession.  Rather than focusing on individuals, matchmakers brought together families to see if they were socially compatible.  The prospective groom’s family would be expected to be wealthier and have a higher social status, while the bride’s would often be chosen on the basis of literary or artistic achievement.  If the families got along, the young people would then be introduced and a marriage might go ahead.

Matchmakers also helped to arrange introductions for widows and widowers.  In this situation they would sometimes work with people who no longer had older relatives to approve their marriage.  The involvement of the matchmaker would help to make the arrangement socially respectable.

The changing role of the chaperone

Over time, Chinese families stopped using the services of matchmakers and began to arrange marriages directly.  Gradually, young people gained more freedom to say yes or no to proposed engagements, and prospective partners started to be suggested by friends as well as parents.  Rather than being supervised by matchmakers, dates began to be chaperoned by family friends.  Much Asian dating still incorporates this tradition, but increasingly the role of the chaperone is played by a group of friends of the same age – or by an agency.

Online dating agencies

When they are hoping to meet Western men, the ideal solution for Chinese girls is to find reliable Asian dating sites.  This means that they can get to know the men who like them in a supervised environment, much like a traditional introduction by a matchmaker.  Just like a matchmaker, a good agency will ensure that they are safe and that the men they meet are genuine, with good intentions.

In keeping with Chinese tradition, we make it easy for you to get to know Chinese girls online by sending her love notes and gifts.  These will show her that you’re serious before the two of you decide whether or not to take the next step and meet up in person.

Chaperoned dates in China

If you and the Chinese woman you’re romancing do decide to meet, we can arrange to chaperone your first date for you so she will feel confident that everything is proper and above board.  Rather than making things really formal, this will actually enable her to relax and have fun.  If you enjoy each other’s company and if she believes that you are serious in your intentions, she may agree to a second date with just the two of you; it could be the beginning of the happiest relationship of your life!

Father’s Day and Chinese dating

Chinese dating often means learning about the different customs that your new love observes. You might be surprised to learn that Father’s Day could be one of these customs.

Father's day

In China, Father’s Day is celebrated on the third Sunday in June, which happens to be June 15th this year just like in the US and UK. However, in Mainland China and Hong Kong, the holiday is not readily observed by everyone.  It is usually reserved for expatriates living in the country.  This means it is not a public holiday.

Chinese dating means that you have to respect and honor your sweetheart’s family, so it might be a good idea to remember Father’s Day as a courtesy.  After all, her dad might be from the US just like you.

The current view of Father’s Day and its unofficial observance in June was not always the case in China.  In fact, during the period of WWII, Father’s Day was actually celebrated on August 8th because the government wanted the people to celebrate the soldiers who had died as well as honoring fathers.  This date was selected because it can be shortened to “bā bā” (八八 “eight eight”), which sounds very similar to the informal word for father (爸爸, bàba).

Over the years, the August 8th tradition dropped off in Mainland China, but it has continued in Taiwan.  The customs are pretty similar to the American ones; Dad is taken out for lunch or dinner, given gifts, and celebrated.

Overcoming cultural conflict in Chinese dating

We’ve all seen it: an American man with a Chinese woman, seemingly happy and in love.  There are undoubtedly cultural differences that come up in Chinese dating, so how are these overcome in such relationships?  It takes a lot of love, understanding, and patience, but it is possible.

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Here are a few anecdotes that show the basic cultural divides when it comes to Chinese dating.  Of course, these are not applicable to every relationship; they are just some examples of how things might differ.  The secret to success is to be aware of these differences, embrace them, and move on!

Gifts vs. Loans

Sometimes, there is a fundamental difference between the idea of giving a gift and lending money, especially between romantic partners.  For example, if a Chinese woman has been hinting at a particular item that she’s had her eye on, she may be hoping for her American boyfriend to pick up on it and purchase it as a gift.  This is something that can apply to women of all cultures.  It might not be a good idea to suggest offering her a loan to make the purchase on her own.  A woman wants to feel valued and adored, and that is often illustrated through gifts, not loans.

Pre-nuptial agreements

Pre-nuptial agreements can be a sensitive subject regardless of the nationality or culture of the couple, but it can be even touchier when it comes to a Chinese woman and an American man.  In the U.S., it is fairly common for there to be a pre-nuptial agreement, especially if it is a second or third marriage for someone with considerable assets.  This is less common in China, so it could raise questions and hurt feelings if not approached properly.

A bad aftertaste

There is no question that American food and Chinese food differ greatly, and people might not be used to food from other cultures.  For example, Sichuan hot pot is one of the spiciest meals possible and it does leave a lingering aftertaste.  This can be quite shocking for an unsuspecting American if he goes to kiss his sweetheart!  He might have a negative reaction to this, which in turn, could hurt the woman’s feelings.  Don’t let it go that far.  Know what to expect!