Chinese women today are not the same stereotypical Asian girl that’s so often depicted as being demure and helpless. They are certainly beautiful and feminine. There’s no doubt about that. However, the modern Chinese woman also happens to be strong, as well as highly intelligent, and many have advanced degrees and are well on their way to building their careers.
When dating the modern Chinese woman, Western men will find that there is a difference between doing that and dating “traditional” Chinese women. Let’s look at these differences a bit more closely to give you a better idea of what it’s like.
What Makes Modern Asian Women Different
First, let’s look at the elements that typify the traditional woman in China. She may be very studious, but also humble and shy, as well as deferential, sometimes to her detriment. While respect is fantastic between both men and women, women should not always have to capitulate to what the men want. Mutual respect is necessary. Many traditional women in China are very family oriented as well.
Now, we’ll look at the modern Chinese woman. They tend to be more independent emotionally and financially, and they are typically very outgoing. As mentioned, they are career and goal oriented, and highly educated. In addition, they often live alone and travel alone. This is especially true of women in urbanized areas who have devoted most of their time and energy to building their own identity, rather than sticking just to what their traditional Chinese families want for them.
Because of these differences, and the fact that many families – and men – in China expect a woman to be married at a relatively young age, by her mid-twenties, many modern Chinese women who have pursued a career and travel over settling down early end up struggling to find a man who appreciates what they have to offer in their own country.
These women are more and more often turning to online dating to find a Western man with a more open mind, one who values their life experience and independence and is much less concerned with age. Western men are very much accustomed to women who don’t marry until their late twenties, early thirties, or even in their forties, so this is seldom a concern when they choose a partner.
Finding the Right Mix
Of course, it is also important to remember that each woman is an individual and likely has some traits from both of these categories. When you meet a woman, it’s important to get to know more about her and the things that she finds important when you are deciding if the two of you are compatible. Are you looking for someone who is modern and independent, or are you looking for someone who is more traditional?
It’s likely that even if you meet a beautiful Chinese woman who is modern, independent, and has pursued her own life before seeking a relationship, she will still have ties to some of her traditional background. You want to make sure that her needs and wants will mesh well with yours, and that the two of you will be able to agree on important aspects of your life together. For example, she may be ready to settle down and stay home to raise children for a while, or she may desire to have kids yet continue to work. Either way you want to be sure you can agree on how to do things.
You have to find the person that makes you happy, and you have to be sure that she’s happy as well.