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Chinese traditions

When Chinese dating leads to a wedding

Chinese dating can often lead to marriage, which ultimately means that there is going to be a wedding.  This is an exciting time, but for a groom who is not fully immersed into the Chinese culture, a Chinese wedding can be a bit different from what he might be expecting.

Some grooms-to-be might experience a little bit of culture shock because Chinese wedding customs are a lot different than those in the West.  If you didn’t take the time to learn about the culture when you started Chinese dating, now is definitely the time!


Here are some basic guidelines.  Keep in mind that this list isn’t exhaustive, so additional research might be a good idea:

  • Picking up the bride.  One of the high points of a Chinese wedding is when the groom picks up his bride.  You must pass various tests of strength and intelligence, one of which involves preparing red envelopes filled with money to distribute to the bride’s family in order to take her away to her new life.
  • The marriage toast.  Much like Western weddings, the bride and groom drink to a toast. However, this has a greater significance in the Chinese wedding celebration.  The couple stand and face each other and each person takes a glass of wine.  They then intertwine their arms and each of them drinks the other’s entire glass.  This binds the marriage.
  • Disturbing the nuptial chamber.  Don’t worry; this isn’t quite what it sounds like!  This tradition is a fun and interesting way to wish the newlyweds good luck.  Friends and relatives think up various entertaining skits that the couple must act out in front of the entire wedding party.  Don’t be embarrassed… it’s all in good fun!