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Dating tips

Tips for dating widowed Chinese girls

Although it might not have occurred to you as you set up your online dating profile, some of the Chinese girls you encounter might be widows.  This means that the lucky lady to catch your eye might actually have been married before and then, sadly, lost her husband.

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Don’t fret; it is perfectly alright to date a widow!  If you’ve met a potential mate who also happens to be a widow, don’t run the other way.  You can work through it together.  If you’re interested in dating Chinese girls but are concerned when you find out that you might be seeing a widow, here are some things to think about:

Although these points are not intended to dissuade you from dating a widow, they are all things you should keep in mind.  If you really like her, you should be as supportive as possible.

  • How long ago did he pass?  You don’t have to pry, but it is helpful to find out how recent her husband’s death was.  If she just lost her spouse, she might not be ready for something serious and might prefer simple companionship instead.
  • Did they have any kids?  Losing a spouse is hard enough. Losing a spouse and becoming a single parent can be downright terrifying.  Children of any age might not immediately take to the notion of Mom or Dad dating someone new, especially if it is soon after the death.  Be patient with them.
  • She might cry at anytime.  Losing a loved one is never easy, especially your partner.  She might still cry at the drop of a hat, and you should understand that this likely has nothing to do with you.  Remember that she’s starting over, so you might have to take it slow.

Although these points are not intended to dissuade you from dating a widow, they are all things you should keep in mind.  If you really like her, you should be as supportive as possible.

Chinese girls and dating agents

We’re proud to be among the top Asian dating websites in China, but sometimes people ask us why sites like ours exist at all.  Why don’t Chinese girls who are interested in Western men choose to meet them more directly?  The reasons are manifold and are rooted in Chinese tradition.

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The historical role of the matchmaker

Centuries before there were Asian dating sites online, weddings in China used to be arranged through matchmakers.  At the time of the Zhou dynasty there was an official state matchmaker responsible for overseeing marriages throughout the empire.  Later, the role became a respected profession.  Rather than focusing on individuals, matchmakers brought together families to see if they were socially compatible.  The prospective groom’s family would be expected to be wealthier and have a higher social status, while the bride’s would often be chosen on the basis of literary or artistic achievement.  If the families got along, the young people would then be introduced and a marriage might go ahead.

Matchmakers also helped to arrange introductions for widows and widowers.  In this situation they would sometimes work with people who no longer had older relatives to approve their marriage.  The involvement of the matchmaker would help to make the arrangement socially respectable.

The changing role of the chaperone

Over time, Chinese families stopped using the services of matchmakers and began to arrange marriages directly.  Gradually, young people gained more freedom to say yes or no to proposed engagements, and prospective partners started to be suggested by friends as well as parents.  Rather than being supervised by matchmakers, dates began to be chaperoned by family friends.  Much Asian dating still incorporates this tradition, but increasingly the role of the chaperone is played by a group of friends of the same age – or by an agency.

Online dating agencies

When they are hoping to meet Western men, the ideal solution for Chinese girls is to find reliable Asian dating sites.  This means that they can get to know the men who like them in a supervised environment, much like a traditional introduction by a matchmaker.  Just like a matchmaker, a good agency will ensure that they are safe and that the men they meet are genuine, with good intentions.

In keeping with Chinese tradition, we make it easy for you to get to know Chinese girls online by sending her love notes and gifts.  These will show her that you’re serious before the two of you decide whether or not to take the next step and meet up in person.

Chaperoned dates in China

If you and the Chinese woman you’re romancing do decide to meet, we can arrange to chaperone your first date for you so she will feel confident that everything is proper and above board.  Rather than making things really formal, this will actually enable her to relax and have fun.  If you enjoy each other’s company and if she believes that you are serious in your intentions, she may agree to a second date with just the two of you; it could be the beginning of the happiest relationship of your life!

Traveling to China to meet Chinese girls

Meeting someone through an online dating site can be an exciting new adventure that leads to many great experiences, such as traveling to China to meet Chinese girls. Exploring other countries can be rewarding in its own right, but when a special lady is waiting there it is even more exciting!

China is a very old country, steeped in culture and mystery. It is impossibly diverse and vast – unlike many other destinations, which makes it one of the most appealing locations for world travelers. Its vastness and mystery can also, however, make it extremely daunting. So, here are some tips for those who plan to visit China for the very first time.


Dealing with the language barrier

One of the biggest hurdles for anyone traveling to China for the first time is the language barrier. Despite English being taught in Chinese schools, this barrier can often seem impenetrable, especially in the rural regions. This can be particularly frustrating when trying to communicate with Chinese girls.

It is a good idea to try and learn a few basic words and phrases before embarking on the journey. Take a class in the country’s default language, Mandarin Chinese, if possible. And, do not forget to take a Mandarin Chinese phrasebook, an English-to-Chinese and Chinese-to-English pocket dictionary, and install some translator apps on your smartphone or tablet. When roaming throughout China, always take some Chinese-language business cards of the hotel or places you wish to visit, in order to make your travels a little easier.

Keep your itinerary concise

In the excitement of planning a trip to China to meet that someone special, it can be easy to forget just how massive the country actually is. China is home to the world’s highest mountains, most expansive deserts, remote jungles, and largest cities. Do not wear yourself out by trying to see it all in a few days – keep the itinerary focused and concise. In fact, if you have someone you are planning to meet in China, ask her for some advice on exploring the region she is from. The locals always know the best locations and sights to see, after all!

Use public transport

In the larger cities, public transport is quite extensive and very reliable. It is an inexpensive way to explore the city. Buses, bikes, and trains are the way the locals get around, so why shouldn’t you? Most cities, in fact, are designed with bicyclists in mind, especially in Beijing. Do not worry about getting lost – Chinese people are extremely polite, honest, and friendly and are usually happy to help a friendly tourist who has lost his way.

Many people jump at the chance to travel to China, and rightly so. The country is beautiful and exciting and has so much to offer. So, if you are interested in dating or meeting Chinese girls in their home country, start planning your trip right away!

Winning the hearts of Chinese women

There is no doubt that American men and Chinese women come from very different cultures, and we all know that dating someone from a different culture isn’t always easy, especially when one of the cultures is steeped in tradition.  In China, many women are traditionalists at heart, even if they live a very modern life.

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Here are some basic tips for dating Chinese women. Hopefully this advice will help you win her heart!

  • Personal hygiene is important.  Chinese women are often likened to porcelain dolls on account of their fair skin and neat appearance.  Personal hygiene is essential.  When spending time with a Chinese lady, be sure to be as clean and groomed as possible.  This is something that every woman will appreciate.
  • Punctuality is important.  In China, time is important and punctuality is often seen as a sign of respect.  Arrive about five minutes earlier than expected so that no one is left waiting on you.
  • Gifts are important.  While you don’t have to bring gifts on each and every date, Chinese women love to be pampered and showered with love and affection.  Again, this is something that is true of many women.  Go for something simple, like a single long-stemmed rose every once in a while, and you’re sure to make an impression.
  • Conversation is important.  Conversation is important, especially for the first date.  Ask her things about herself and get to know her better.  Go ahead and do a little research on Chinese culture to show you appreciate her heritage and are interested in learning more.