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Marrying Asian singles in China

Asian singles, even those dating American citizens, often end up getting married in China.  So, if you are dating someone you’ve met online and is from China, you will want to read on for some helpful information about getting married in China.

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Residency required

The first thing to understand is that foreigners cannot get married in China unless one of the people is a legal resident of the country.  If you are simply dating someone of Chinese descent but isn’t a resident, you won’t be able to obtain a marriage license.

Required documents

Registration for marriage in China differs throughout the different cities, townships, and provinces, which means that the documents you may be required to provide will likely vary.  However, U.S citizens hoping to get married in China must provide the following items:

  • Valid passport with a valid Chinese visa.
  • An Affidavit of Marriageability, or a Single Statement, must be notarized and provided.
  • Verification of divorce, annulment decree, or death certificate if you’ve been married before.
  • Three photographs of you and your loved one in front of a red background.
  • Registration fee.

Marriage restrictions

Believe it or not, there are some rules pertaining to which Asian singles can get married and which ones can’t!  Some Chinese citizens, such as security officials and diplomats, are not permitted to marry foreigners.  They can, however, marry other Chinese citizens.  Additionally, Chinese students are allowed to get married to foreigners, but some schools do have rules that require such students to be expelled.

What’s different about dating single Asian women?

As you may have already figured out, dating single Asian women is often a little different than dating single white women, partially because China is a very old nation with thousands of years of continuous tradition.

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Though the basics of dating are pretty much the same, there are quite a few things that are different about dating single Asian women.  Here are some examples:

  • When dating begins.  In China, college entrance examinations are top priority, so dating is typically not tolerated among high school students.  This doesn’t mean that Chinese women don’t have teenage crushes; it just means that they enter college with a lot less romantic experience than women in other countries.
  • There’s a purpose.  In China, people tend to take a very pragmatic approach to dating.  Often, dating isn’t as much about finding a soul mate as it is about finding a marriage partner that meshes with one’s ideals and stability.
  • Parents are involved.  Though all parents are different, in China, they are often more involved in their children’s romantic relationships.  In the United States, this is often seen as meddling, but in China, it is sometimes welcomed.
  • In the bedroom.  Typically, premarital sex is pretty rare in China, and is taken more seriously than it is in most Western cultures.  Though attitudes toward sexual activity are changing, many Chinese women view sex as a stepping-stone to marriage.
  • The ultimate goal.  Throughout China, the primary goal of most romantic relationships is marriage – and lots of Chinese young adults are under familial pressure to find a good spouse.  This is particularly true for ‘leftover’ women – those who are pushing 30 but still haven’t landed a man.

 

Sure, these things are all generalizations, and certainly do not apply to every single Chinese person out there, but they are worth mentioning since it may help make some of those cultural nuances a little easier to understand.

Dating, love and marriage for single Chinese women

Despite all the changes that have occurred over the past few decades, life for single chinese women can be very different from the way it is for their counterparts in the West.  This is partly why, for a lot of Chinese women, dating sites that give the option to meet Western men are such an appealing choice.  Not only do they see Western men as particularly attractive, they may also, despite their beauty, not be properly appreciated by the men they meet in their own country.  Single Chinese women face pressures that outsiders don’t always anticipate.

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The right age to date

In modern China there is a strong emphasis on the importance of education, so most girls don’t date, or get very little experience of dating, before they finish college.  They are then expected to find husbands and settle down.  If they haven’t done this by the age of about 27, people start to think of them as ‘left on the shelf’, and if they are still unmarried at 30, most Chinese men will not consider dating them.  Even more significantly in a society where blood relationships remain important throughout life, families will not consider them suitable wife material for their sons.

The result of this is that many attractive women, only a few years past marriageable age, can find themselves with limited romantic prospects in their own country.  For these Chinese women, online dating can be thrilling because it gives them the chance to meet men who want them for who they are.

Love and duty

Most Chinese women still grow up with a strong sense that it is their duty to marry and reproduce.  In particular, they are encouraged to marry men who are older, better educated, wealthier and of higher social status than they are.  This doesn’t leave much room for love and some will openly dismiss it as not very important.  Deep down, though, they are as excited by the idea of love and romance as anyone else.

Western men who date single Chinese women online are often seen as a dream come true. This is because they are not likely to turn their noses up at the age of the Chinese ladies they are getting to know.  Most appealing, though, is the prospect of meeting a man who is actually looking for love and is prepared to be romantic.  If a Chinese woman can meet somebody she clicks with and has the chance to fall in love with them, she will be very happy indeed.

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Because of the cultural importance of family and respectability, and because of the dreams they have grown up with, most of the single chinese women on our site are looking to get married: they simply need to find a lucky man to do so with.  If you make an effort to understand them and give them the life partner they’ve been looking for, one of those lucky men could be you.