Tag Archives: Moving home

Moving home

Asian dating: moving from the East to the West

Often, in Asian dating relationships, couples fall in love and live happily ever after – but where do they end up living? In order to be together, one must relocate overseas. It is common for a couple to start their lives together in China and then move to the U.S. afterward.

east or west, opposite signs

So, what happens when a couple moves from the East to the West like that? Is there culture shock? The answer is yes: for both parties! Here’s a look at some challenges the couple might experience:

  • A general disinterest in the lives you lived in China. Living abroad is usually only exciting for the person doing it. Aside from very close friends and relatives, most people in the U.S. won’t care as much as you think. It is often the opposite in China – most people are intrigued with life in the U.S.
  • People may judge your spouse based on her accent. Unfortunately, not everyone is as open-minded as they like to think. Many people are extremely judgmental against anyone that speaks English with an accent. On the other hand, there are many people who love those with accents and gravitate toward them!
  • Discrimination. You probably experienced your share of discrimination in China as an American, so don’t expect it to be different when your Chinese spouse arrives in the U.S. As far as the world has come, this still happens at times. Just be as prepared as possible.
  • You’re going to miss REAL Chinese food. American Chinese food just isn’t the same! The odds of you finding take-out that really satiates your hunger in this department, you’re probably going to need to learn how to cook authentic Chinese food and frequent the Asian markets whenever possible!
  • Driving. Driving in the U.S. is not like driving in China! In fact, lots of people in China just don’t drive, so you’re going to have to give lessons – or get professional help for your spouse!

The bottom line? Don’t let these challenges deter you from Asian dating, falling in love, or moving to or from China! Challenges come with every new chapter in life; you’ve just got to be prepared!