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One child policy

What Chinese dating sites don’t discuss: the male-female surplus

Most Chinese dating sites are all about love and romance, but they often fail to mention the male-to-female trends that are taking root in China.

One child policy in china

It is no secret that China has practiced its infamous one-child policy, which was intended as a form of population control, for the past 30 years. This has led to a high number of sex selection abortions, with male babies being preferred over female ones. Therefore, there is a significant surplus of young men in China in comparison to young women.

Over time, this imbalance will become completely unsustainable, which might be why the Chinese government has begun easing the restrictions of the one-child policy.

This imbalance has led Chinese women to become quite selective when it comes to choosing a mate. Many of them have joined Chinese dating sites to broaden their prospects even further. In many cases, Chinese women are seeking romantic relationships with Western men.

The same can be said for Chinese men, but there is a double standard. Because Chinese women have become so choosy, men are also joining online dating sites and seeking to date women from the West. However, this can be tricky for some Chinese men, as many Western women aren’t as interested in dating someone from China as their male counterparts are.

Asian dating examined in “The Leftover Monologues”

Asian dating is very different from dating in the West. Part of this might be due to China’s One Child Policy, which was implemented in the late 1970s and has put the ratio of women to men in the country severely off kilter.

Chinese culture

Many Chinese people might consider themselves as modern in terms of today’s social views; however, when it comes to dating, parental pressure can still outweigh true love in many cases. Asian dating is often intended for families to move up the social ladder or to maintain a certain status. Some dating choices are also fueled by the fear of becoming a “leftover woman.”

In China, women who haven’t married by the age of 27 are considered “leftover.”  These are typically women who have gone to college and chosen a career rather than family life. Many of these ladies turn to online dating and men from the West because of this stigma. Now, these concerns are being laid out on the stage.

“The Leftover Monologues” is a play that was inspired by the wildly popular Broadway show, “The Vagina Monologues.”  However, this Middle Kingdom version focuses on Chinese and foreign women – and some men – and their stories of romance, love, dating, and the crippling fear of being leftover.

American journalist Roseann Lake is the brain behind “The Leftover Monologues.”  She has just finished writing a book about love in China, which drew her attention to the phenomenon of leftover women and just how different Asian dating is from American dating.

The play opened in Beijing over the summer and ran for a couple of weeks. If it opens professionally in the coming years and you are interested in Chinese culture, you might want to check it out to gain some insight into the Chinese dating scene.

Finding single Asian women is difficult for China’s “surplus men”

According to experts, there will be about 24 million more men than women in China in the next few years, which means that the majority of Asian women are already taken.  What does this mean for these “surplus men”?

China 'suplus men'

Since so many Asian women are already romantically linked to other men, China’s male surplus are having a hard time finding partners.  In fact, there are so many available men to choose from that the ladies in China are starting to get quite picky.  Many women are starting to set their standards so high that most regular Chinese guys simply are not making the grade.  This is making it difficult for the locals.

Why has this surplus of men come about in the first place?  Lots of experts blame the country’s One Child Policy, which was introduced in 1979 by the leader at the time, Deng Xiaoping.

The policy was originally intended to slow down China’s population increase.  In the 1980s, couples started using ultrasounds to determine the gender of their unborn baby.  Many couples chose to terminate female pregnancies in favor of male offspring.  This practice lasted until 1994.

As a result of this trend, there are about 66 million fewer women in China than there should be.  So what’s a lonely guy to do?  Lots of Chinese guys are now turning to online dating to find love across the globe.  Many Asian women have made online dating profiles, and now men are starting to follow suit.